Why a homebirth is not for me . . .
Ok, first of all, I love the idea of having a midwife! I have often wished I could have a trustworthy lady with Godly wisdom, to support me throughout my pregnancy! However, I decided to go with an OB this time around . . . honestly this isn't the ideal situation for me right now. My OB, who is a pretty great gal, would only be delivering my baby if she happened to be "on call". There are three ladies in the practice, and one gentlemen who comes up from Texas sporadically. These are the only people who are allowed to deliver at the hospital (I really hoped getting a midwife would be an option, but for whatever reason it's not). Therefore, the chances of me getting my OB were really only 25% from the start. Unfortunately, my Dr. has had some pretty intense health issues herself this last month, thus she will be out for quite a while. Even though it is a rough situation, and disappointing since she is everyone's favorite . . . I am trying to see this as a blessing in disguise. Due to the situation at hand, I have been allowed to jump around between doctors. That means I am getting to know each of them, and when it comes time to deliver Kyria I will be familiar with whichever doctor is "on call"! So why not just hire a midwife, and do this whole thing at home? Well, perhaps it is because this is my first time and I am making a "rookie" mistake! Haha. Seriously though, I am pretty excited about the location at which Kyria will be born! The hospital we'll be at has a very family-supportive birthing center. We will have a room all to ourselves for the duration of our stay, and Kyria will get to be in the room with us at all times! The nursing staff is wonderful from what I've seen and heard, and everyone I've talked to says it is a great place to give birth! Not only this, but I really feel grossed out at the idea of trying to go through all of this at home. Call me high maintenance, but I want to be in a place other than our bedroom while giving birth, and I want there to be nurses to clean up after me, and I want a nice bathroom and shower (the birthing room has a huge private tub/shower!) that doesn't leave hard water stains! Also, since this is my first child, I like the security of being right there at the hospital in case of an emergency. So this is why Kyria will be born at the hospital . . .unless of course my birth experience is so easy Skyler must deliver her in our hard-water stained bathtub because I "didn't feel like it was bad enough to go to the hospital" (Definitely had a lady tell me this story about someone she knew! CrAzY!)
Why I haven't written a birth plan . . . yet, anyway . . .
After doing a little research, I really felt that writing up a birth plan would be a good idea! One of my friends did this, and I was super inspired to follow her lead! (You should definitely check out her birth plan, and birth story! It's pretty great!) After all, Skyler and I have had many conversations about how we would like this birth to go, and I've read so much about all the unnecessary, non-emergency procedures implemented during birth at a hospital. But then I heard/read about a hundred different birth stories, and I've decided it is really difficult to come up with a plan . . .because inevitably things will not go as we plan! In fact, I've come to the realization that I really have no control over this birth . . . that may sound silly at first - if I am not in control, who is? The doctor? No! The nurses? Nope! . . .The answer is God, and the way he has designed my body to work. When the time comes to give birth to Kyria, my body is going to do it's thing, and we are praying that God will allow us to have a healthy baby girl no matter what issues arise throughout the process of giving birth. So no, I haven't gotten around to writing up the birth plan. I may get around to it, but maybe I won't. Maybe it would be better to go into the whole situation with an open mind, and my expectations and trust relying solely on the Lord. I am praying, and I believe that He will be faithful in giving us the wisdom and discernment we need in each and every situation we face during this process! (NOTE: I have been talking a lot with my doctors, and it seems most of the things I would put in my birth plan are already the norm at this hospital's birthing center. I plan to speak to the nurses more this weekend at our prenatal class, and if necessary I will write out our preferences so that everyone will be on the same page! :)
Why I am open to the possibility of using pitocin, an epidural, etc. . . .
What!? Did I really just say that out loud! (Well, no, not technically. . .:)) Before some of you jump down to leave me harsh comments, hear me out . . .
Initially, I was pretty much against most of these seemingly unnecessary interventions. God designed women to give birth, and of course there will be lots of pain - we are guaranteed this in His Word. However, birth is not an illness, it is a natural process and with the right training I believe I can go through the process naturally. This of course would be better for the baby and me . . . right!? Uhhhh???? Now I'm not so sure . . . 1) I am sure with the proper training, giving birth naturally would be much easier. I am sure women of the past, who didn't have the option of epidurals or C-sections often delivered babies with great difficulty using only natural solutions. However, we live in a very different time. I can't say that I have had adequate training which will prepare me for the massive task that lies ahead. I've never seen anyone give birth, and I really don't know much about the whole process despite my meager attempts at research. I hope to learn more, but this time around I am pretty "green"! 2) Initially I thought epidurals must be much worse for the baby and myself than delivering naturally. It would seem epidurals are to blame for all sorts of problems . . . from slowing down labor, causing more tearing than necessary, not allowing the momma to have control of her body in order to push, to possibly causing serious life-long issues with her nervous system. But then I heard a whole slew of stories where an epidural actually helped speed up labor, and gave the momma more control of her body. Not only that, but my doctors testify that they actually have more tearing occur from women who do not get epidurals. Plus, unlike opting for drugs through an IV, which transfers to the baby, an epidural really doesn't cause issues for the baby. And, because epidurals have been around for awhile, and are used more frequently, the risk involved is quite minimal. I could share similar stories about the use of pitocin. 3) Although, I do believe natural is best if possible, I am not opposed to the possibility of using these other methods. I most definitely do not see this as a sin issue, and I am thankful that God has given us ways (such as delivery by cesarean section in an emergency situation, or the ability to save a baby that is born prematurely) to ensure that births result in healthy babies. That is really our motivation no matter what we decide to do during the birthing process. I am not motivated by proving how tough I am, or to show that going all-natural is the ONLY right way. I simply want what is best for our little baby! If that means getting an epidural or taking pitocin in certain situations, then I will be open to the possibility.
So there ya go . . . just a few thoughts I figured you might be interested in hearing. Also, I came to these conclusions after listening to the stories of many respectable Christian women who planned to give birth naturally or indeed did give birth naturally, but with major issues. I realize that it is easy to make blanket statements about how "giving birth naturally really isn't as bad as everyone says . . . you can do it!". I truly hope I can, and I hope that birth goes as smoothly for me as some of the stories I've heard! However, everyone is different, and each person will have a unique birth experience. It's not fair to look down on women who couldn't deliver as naturally as they hoped, or those who tried it natural once and will never go back. Like I mentioned before, I do not believe this is a sin issue. Each experience comes with a variety of challenges, and God will give us the grace to make it through . . . but that will look different for every woman.
What was your birth experience like!? We would love to hear from you, and gain insight from your unique situation! :)