August 21, 2014

Thinking Thrifty: The Library

As some of you know, this summer we've been doing different themes with Kyria for learning FuN and activities.  I found lots of good stuff from  Such a great site.  It also lists books that can go with each unit!  Since it would be WAY too expensive to buy 4-5 books every couple week, Skyler and I finally bought a library card.  Yes, we had to pay a $20 or $25 fee (I can't remember), since we don't live in the city limits.  However, it has been well worth it!

 Sometimes our library doesn't have the books we need, but if I plan in advance I can get them sent through the courier.  I can usually find something that will go with the theme even if I don't find exactly what I'm looking for.  Plus, they have special events for the kids such as story time.  This past weekend, Kyria was able to play, brush, and read to a little puppy!

I'd say this is a great way to save money.  We are a family of readers.  Kyria must get her love for reading from momma & daddy. She will sit quietly next to me and let me read book after book for at least thirty minutes a day.  I've been told this isn't typical for a toddler!:S  Hoping Brielle will like it as much as Kyria!  I LOVE the cuddle time! :)

We usually just buy books at the local Christian book store, Mardel's in Springfield, or we'll buy them with an order from Amazon.  I like being able to try books out at the library first, and then I can buy the ones I know we will really want. 

Do you utilize the library?  Does it help your family save money? 

We have some local homeschool groups on facebook that sell books sometimes.  I might look on there occasionally for preschool resources.  What other ways do you get books/resources for your children to read?

Any other tips for saving money on reading material?

August 20, 2014

Black & White ~ Hard Question of Headcovering

Hi there!  Hope you all are having a blessed day! 

Yesterday, I was telling you how I would be posting more outfits throughout the week in addition to Wednesdays.  The more I've thought about it, the more I'm realizing it would probably be better to long-term keep all outfits from the week on Wednesday.  However, for now, I will keep this little series going, and post a couple more at the end of the week.  Hopefully you won't mind too much!? 

Anyway here's the Black & White I wore to church on Sunday . . .

Shirt - I've had this so long I can't remember? Maybe Khol's - ?
Under Tank - Motherhood - $10
Long Skirt - BCBGMax from Thirft Store - $4.99
Belt - Came with a dress. -
Bracelet - Maurices - ?
Wedges - NY&Co. - $16
Hat - Garage Sale - $0.50
As for what I've been learning as I am being transformed from the inside/out . . . well, there is really so much, but since I wore a hat to church I guess I'll tell you why: 
Head coverings?
You know that verse from 1 Corinthians Chapter 11.
Imitate me, just as I also imitate Christ.
Now I praise you, brethren, that you remember me in all things and keep the traditions just as I delivered them to you. But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God. Every man praying or prophesying, having his head covered, dishonors his head. But every woman who prays or prophesies with her head uncovered dishonors her head, for that is one and the same as if her head were shaved. For if a woman is not covered, let her also be shorn. But if it is shameful for a woman to be shorn or shaved, let her be covered.  For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, since he is the image and glory of God; but woman is the glory of man. For man is not from woman, but woman from man. Nor was man created for the woman, but woman for the man.  For this reason the woman ought to have a symbol of authority on her head, because of the angels.  Nevertheless, neither is man independent of woman, nor woman independent of man, in the Lord.  For as woman came from man, even so man also comes through woman; but all things are from God.  Judge among yourselves. Is it proper for a woman to pray to God with her head uncovered?  Does not even nature itself teach you that if a man has long hair, it is a dishonor to him?  But if a woman has long hair, it is a glory to her; for her hair is given to her for a covering. But if anyone seems to be contentious, we have no such custom, nor do the churches of God.

Ironically, this passage is NOT Black & White.  This portion of Scripture has always caused me to wrestle, because it seems to be saying women should be wearing head coverings as a symbol of their husband's authority.  Yet, for the most part this doesn't take place in the church today (with the exception of some denominations such as Mennonites, and a few other random ladies and churches who have decided to look into it a little deeper).   I've kind of been on a hunt to have some questions answered . . .
How is the modern church interpreting this passage?
How come ladies wore hats up until the sexual revolution of the 60s & 70s?
What did some of our church father's have to say about head coverings?
Is this passage demonstrating a custom or principal?
If one is to wear a head covering, what does that look like?
Should one be worn everyday, only at church, or anytime a women is going to pray?
I'm still on the hunt for clarification.  I realize this isn't a salvation issue, or even something everyone needs to wrestle with. Personally, I have just found this to be a hard question every time I read it.  I don't think it would be very honoring to God for me to simply ignore it.  If God would have me as a martyr for my faith in Him, it is my prayer that I would follow through and not deny Him before men.  I believe a response of great faith such as that, would require faithful practice in the small things now.  I want to take the time to look at the intention of this passage because even if it isn't practiced in our culture, and might even be seen as weird, it really is a rather small act of obedience if it IS something God is calling us to.  If I'd be willing to die for the Lord, surely I can wear a head covering if that is what He is really asking me to do according to this passage.
So here are some initial thoughts I have, and why I wore a hat on Sunday.
From what I understand about this passage, Paul is addressing practices/traditions in the church meeting.  For this reason, I don't think it is necessary to wear the head covering at all times.  Although, it certainly wouldn't be bad to wear a "symbol of authority" on your head everyday.  I just feel like if it were talking about outside of the church, then technically men shouldn't wear hats, since their heads should be uncovered.  As for women wearing them while they pray . . . I guess it seems to me that if it is to be, again, a "symbol of authority" then to wear one in the privacy of your own home wouldn't be necessary.  However, one of Paul's reasonings is "because of the angels".  I don't think anyone really knows exactly what this means, but I can see why it would lead some women to wear head coverings anytime they pray.  As of now I personally feel that IF a head covering is to be worn the passage seems to mean to wear them at the church meeting.
I think for the most part evangelical churches today would say this passage is strictly custom, and does not apply to us today.  I have heard it said that prostitutes of the time went around with their head uncovered, thus Christian women were told, "for goodness sakes, don't come to our meeting times with your heads uncovered".  This is a valid point, and I'm sure that might have had something to do with it.  However, Paul gives specific reasons why women are to wear head coverings, and he said nothing about their culture.  His reasoning were, 1) creation order 2) the angels 3) nature 4) church practice. I am not saying this passage absolutely can not be custom, but it seems that it COULD be a principle that was meant for all churches of all times.  Either way, I guess it makes sense to err on the side of principle if we aren't for sure.  Up until the sexual revolution most women continued to wear hats as head coverings to church.  It makes me a little uneasy to see this "symbol of authority" disappear, just as the feminist movement began to take off.  Also, nearly every church father I have looked at does not interpret this passage as merely custom, but encouraged women to wear head coverings to church. Hmmmm.  Plus, I think we have to be careful calling this "custom" because to many the idea of a wife's submissiveness, or a husband's authority was simply a custom for that time, but is now outdated. 
So if I am beginning to see that wearing a head covering to church might be a small act of obedience prescribed in the Bible, AND it is a way I can display my submissiveness to my husband . . . what does the head covering look like.
I think this is where we have to be careful.  It is meant to be a symbol, and symbols DO have different meanings for different times and cultures.  If a women wears a full out head covering today, I assume she is a Muslim. That would obviously NOT be the appropriate symbol for a Christian woman.  Some have even suggested that elders of the local church should get together, and decide what an appropriate symbol would be for their congregation.  Ideas have included, wedding rings and modest skirts.  Although these might symbolize a wife's submissiveness to her husband, it seems like the picture of Christ as the "head" of man, and a husband as the "head" of his wife would mean this symbol should have something to do with the head.  Some denominations believe a woman's long hair is what this passage is referring to.  When you break it down, I'm pretty sure Paul was actually just saying that a woman's "hair" was given to her as a covering in order to appeal to nature.  A woman's long hair is a covering of sorts, but if you look back up at the beginning of the passage he says, "but every wife who prays or prophesies with her head uncovered dishonors her head [her husband], since it is the same as if her head were shaven.  For if a wife will not cover her head then she should cut her hair short.  but since it is disgraceful for a wife to cut off her hair or shave her head, let her cover her head."  It makes the most sense to me that a woman's long(er) hair is a glory to her, thus she wears a covering as a symbol that she is under the authority of her husband, who is under the authority of Christ. Still, I suppose if a church were trying to come up with an appropriate symbol for today, perhaps long hair could be a valid option.  What then would women who simply CAN NOT grow long hair, or those who are undergoing cancer treatments do?  My husband prefers my hair short (not short short, but medium short).  Who decides what "long" means?
 . . . Sorry, I kind of got on a tangent there with the long hair bit.  I think we also have to be careful because since this "symbol" is supposed to be a way we can display our husbands God-given authority in his family, a headcovering probably shouldn't be worn to draw attention to ourselves.  I believe we can err both ways on this.  A flamboyant hat could very easily be immodest & thus the purpose of the symbol would be lost.  At the same time, as I mentioned above a veil might also be inappropriate if it draws undue attention to oneself, or represents something other than it's purpose. 
All that being said, I feel that an appropriate symbol I could wear today to display my joyful and loving support of my husband's authority would be a hat, or a wide headband/scarf.  I honestly don't feel like this is a big deal, and most people probably wouldn't even notice.  If someone asked why I'm wearing hats or headbands to church every week, I would just point them to the passage and tell them it is a symbol I can joyfully wear to show my husband's leadership in our family.
What are your thoughts? I would LOVE to hear some insight as to the conclusions you have come to concerning these passages. I certainly don't have it all figured out, and perhaps I will be enlightened, and come to a different conclusion soon.  This is just where I'm kind of at on the topic after looking into it this week.  Honestly I don't love headbands and I don't have a ton of hats.  It isn't going to be easy breezy for me, but I can't say it's a huge sacrifice either.  Just a simple way that Scripture says I can honor my husband. 
Again, thoughts?

August 19, 2014

Hello Yellow ~ Joyfully Submissive

Last week I was incredibly encouraged by so many of you who told me both in person, and through social media how you enjoyed my post on modesty.  As I've mentioned before I really wasn't sure how well it would be taken, but was delighted that so many understand my heart on this matter.

As I have been documenting this journey of feminine modesty throughout the week, I have been having so much FuN!  It's motivated me, and given me a better reminder of my purpose each day.  Plus, it's just a blast to experiment with what I have in my closet, and find ways to make outfits work together.  It's a bit of a challenge - finding an outfit that is modest, feminine, practical, and fashionable - but I LOVE it!  If your like me, it's always nice to find a little inspiration for your wardrobe.  I'm not going to guarantee the most up-to-date fashions, but I can show you how I make do with what I have, and how a good thrift store can be your best budget buddy.  I initially just wanted to post one outfit/week, but I'm having so much FuN with this, I might have to show you more!

Here's what I'm thinking for a blog schedule, so this way you have an idea of what's coming. 
Monday - Our learning activities for the week, or FuN things we've been up to.
Tuesday - What I've been wearing & a little inspiration for us ladies - marriage, motherhood, etc.
Wednesday- Inside/Out - AnOtHeR outfit & how I'm being transformed on the inside.
Thursday - Thinking Thrifty, Homesteading stuff, Projects, or anything else . . .
Friday - Recap of our Week, and Project 365.

Obviously there will be weeks when I'm doing good to get one post up, but this give me something to aim for, and I'll try to fill you on facebook at least if I will be unable to post. 

Shirt:  Columbia Brand thrift store find - $1
Skirt:  Ann Tayler Loft from thrift store - $4.99


Anyway, all that being said let's get on with this post shall we . . .

All this talk about dressing feminine, and I feel I need to reiterate a very important point . . . A women may adorn herself outwardly to appear both modest and feminine.  However, her heart might reveal something completely different. Beautiful women of God are not known by their OUTWARD appearance, but by their heart. 

Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel --  rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. ~ 1 Peter 3:3-4

This week despite making more of an effort to dress feminine, my attitude at times has displayed nothing of Biblical Womanhood.  I'm afraid there have been times when I was much too impatient with my girls, and at least twice my husband and I had some "miscommunication" that ended in me asking forgiveness for being incredibly disrespectful.  If only putting on a skirt could somehow change my selfish sin nature!  But that's not how God works, is it!?  I fail and mess up a bazillion times because that's who I am apart from Christ.  Praise the LORD, Christ bore my sins and is in the process of transforming me through his Holy Spirit.  Each opportunity I'm given to repent simply reminds me that I have a Heavenly Father who is teaching and showing me by grace how to live like his Son.  It also reminds me that my own efforts and works are of no value in this process.  Choosing to roll out of bed and shower in the morning is difficult, but might be possible with shear will power, however HEART cleansing can only be done by the power of the HOLY SPIRIT!

So I've been realizing this week that I really fail when it comes to being submissive to my husband.  So here are a few thoughts for you and for me . . . or maybe just me!

"Submission is the divine calling of a wife to honor and affirm her husband's leadership, and help carry it through according to her gifts . . . Submission is the disposition of her spirit to support his initiative, or the subordination of her will to say, 'yes' to his leadership." ~John Piper

The word "submission" has a bad connotation, however, submission according to Scripture is ALWAYS a positive thing that produces joy, peace, and righteousness.  This idea of a wife submitting to her husband is not something that was designed by male chauvinists who wanted to dominate women.  It was designed by God, and is part of His perfect order.  In NO WAY is it meant to degrade or put women in a position of inferiority.  That might be the way the World sees submission, but the Bible puts the word in a completely different light.   

First of all we are to be submissive to our husbands for the Lord's sake because it IS part of His design and order.  "Every passage in the New Testament that addresses the role of a wife to her husband tells her to submit."  I'd say that means it is pretty important!  And Just as a wife is to be submissive and show respect to her husband, the husband is called to the high standard of loving his wife as Christ loves the church. (Check Out Ephesians 5).  There are obviously times when submission is not joyful and can actually be quite unpleasant.  If our husbands aren't doing their part it can be frustrating.   However that does not mean we are off the hook.  A failure on our husband's part does not mean we don't have to be submissive.  If that were the case the relationship would continue in a viscous cycle of  unloving and disrespect.  By showing respect and submissiveness even when we feel he isn't leading well, or when He is being unloving, we break the cycle.  We can only do this when we are conscious of the Lord.  Keeping our focus on His grace and His purposes make submission much easier. (Please realize, I am NOT saying a wife should submit if her husband is asking her to do something that would go against the Lord/Scripture, Nor am I saying a wife should suffer abuse.).

Now look at 1 Peter 2 & 3.  Note the word "Likewise".  Also, recognize that submission is POWERFUL!  Submission has the power to win even the Unbelieving husband . . . imagine what it can do for the believing husband! Obviously it is All by God's grace, but a wife's submissiveness can be the means He uses!  Again, Powerful Stuff!  Our submission inspires our husband to be the leader God intends for him to be.  We can have a HUGE impact on our husbands! Sometimes that might mean a loving rebuke, but verse 1 specifically states "without a word"!  Now that is a challenge!  As women we know of no other language, and every language ObViOuSlY requires words.  Yet, Men are different, and they operate in a realm that seems completely foreign to us at times.  I have to remember that although there are times for loving rebuke, most of the time my husband can be positively influenced if I would refrain from what will simply come across as arrogant nagging.

Also if you look at verses 3-5 you will notice that our submissiveness as wives will make us even more beautiful.  This of all things should catch our attention.  In our culture we value beauty.  Women are always looking for ways to look younger and more beautiful.  But guess what?  Even the most beautiful of models are going to be old someday.  Truth is, we are "wasting away".  Sorry, but it's true.  Praise the Lord, we can be beautiful even as we get old and wrinkly.  My husband won't always see the young woman he married.   It's comforting to know that the more we develop a submissive spirit, the more lovely we will become.  Both to the Lord, and to our husbands.

But what does submission look like?!  Christ is our example.  If you read in Chapter 2 Verse 22 and following (this proceeds the "likewise", thus we are to look to him), it says,

"He committed no sin, neither was deceit found in his mouth"

"When he was reviled, he did not revile in return"

"We he suffered, he did not threaten"

"but continued entrusting himself to him who judges justly.

We can TRUST God!  He is in control, and sovereign over everything. He determined who we would marry.  He controls past, present, and future. Never forget, it is His wisdom, goodness and love that directs his purposes in our lives.  God might be allowing a situation to surface in our marriage because He is wanting to make us more holy.  This has certainly been the case in the last couple of disagreements my husband and I have had.  We WILL not always agree, but even those moments are for our good. 

It is important to realize that submissiveness is NOT the same as dependency.  We can only be dependent on God because He alone is dependable.  Our husbands are sinners, and so are we.  I need to remind myself NOT to place unreasonable expectations on my husband.  My hope must be in the Lord, and I must depend on Him alone.

Oh, there is so much more that could be said . . . Carolyn Mahaney talks about many of these things, and so much more in this video!  If you have time take a look! It's good stuff. 


Tank Top:  Ann Taylor Loft from thrift store - $2.99
Cardigan - Target - ?
Flower pin - refashioned from a stretched out headband of Kyria's - $0
Skirt - thrift store - $4.99
Sandals - gift.
Sorry, didn't really get a good picture of the accessories again . . . promise we're getting better! :)  Next time!

Linking Up With:
Cornerstone Confessions

August 18, 2014

From The Ocean to Camping

Sounds like we've been having lots of summer FuN vacationing as a family, huh? 

Well, almost . . . We haven't gone to the beach, and we aren't planning an actual camping trip.  However, Kyria's had some FuN doing a few "Ocean" activites these past two weeks, and today we are gearing up to start "Camping".

Here are a few shots of Kyria practicing her one to one correspondence.  Super easy!  I just made the grid and had her practice putting one shell for each square.  It didn't hold her attention too long, but it was FuN while it lasted! :)

I am excited about our camping unit, but I'm afraid all the wonderful ideas I have will not get played out . . . I'd LOVE to make a fabric tent and set it up in Kyria's room.  I've seen lots of cute ones!  Then I got this ad in the mail last week!   Maybe this means I need to go pick up some cute Fabric soon!  . . . Very soon because our units only last two weeks!!!

I've been pretty laid back this summer with our activities.  After all it's summer, and she's only two!  But for the sake of routine and keeping the excitement going, I think I need to pick it up.  Plus summer is almost over, and school should be starting, right?! JK However, I might need to set aside some time Friday or Saturday evenings to plan and prepare for the next week's activities. 

Any suggestions from those of you who do/have homeschool(ed)??

PS My daughter has started to add "at" to the end of her sentences when she is wanting to know where something is . . . for instance "daddy at?"  As in, "Where's Daddy at?"  Oh my, I REALLY need to be more careful with my grammar!  Those of you who've followed this blog for a little while know I can be careless with this in my writing.  Usually, I can blame it on typo errors.  Apparently, I'm not too great at speaking either.  Darn I can't blame it on being around high school students all day anymore!!! :)

August 16, 2014

August 2014 Week 2

Wow!  This week has flown by!  It's already Friday!  Time to recap our week! 

Last weekend my parents were down.  My dad offered to make breakfast for us Saturday morning, which meant he would have to go get all the fixins' since I needed to get groceries, and we pretty much make due with eggs around here.  Not my dad! He likes to get up Saturday morning and make a HUGE breakfast!  We're talking eggs, bacon, hashbrowns, bisquits, gravy, and sausage . . .  I should know by now to have lots of breakfast stuff on hand when my parents come since I know how much he enjoys it, but  . . . I didn't.  Not only would I feel horrible having him go to town to get the stuff & make it all, I also didn't want to have a big mess to clean up.  Even though he likes cooking it, my mom usually gets to clean it up.  I think that's why I am not in love with cooking.  I like for things to be clean, and the more I cook the more messes I have to clean up! . . . Anyway, I talked my dad and everyone else into going to a breakfast buffet in Joplin.  Yum!  Talk about a lot of food!  It was a really nice treat!

When we got back we relaxed a little, played in the pool, and while the girls took a nap I went grocery shopping.  A quick stop by Good Will on the way, and I rolled into a goldmine!  Little did I know I was stumbling into Good Will's Back To School Sale!  I ended up getting lots of great stuff for only $35.

Saturday evening I had a photography session with the Cope family.  Zach is a buddy of Skyler's from high school.  His family is adorable! :)

Sunday we had church, and I was sporting one of my Good Will finds!  Skyler snapped this picture of me with the girls . . . I SO wish I would have gotten my mom or dad to take it!  Then we could have a picture of the whole family!  . . . Next Week! Maybe I'll use the tripod! :)

Sunday evening, we celebrated Skyler's Dad's birthday at our house.  I tried to get some shots of Kyra in her cute little outfit from my parents, but that huge bow wasn't really staying on her head!  I was trying to get her to look at the camera, but she was too busy playing.  I think her pouty face in this shot was her telling me she was done with pictures.

Fortunately, Daddy came to the rescue . . .

Monday, we were back at our usual routine.  Kyria and I continued with our "Ocean" themed activities this week.  I have been a little bit of a slacker, and haven't had too many activities for this theme, but we did the sand painting last week, and this week we sorted through shells.  We played in the sand box a lot, so I count that as an activity! :)

Here's a picture of Kyria listening for the ocean.  She is very focused! lol

Wednesday our friend LeNeeah came with her new baby Hadley to visit, and I splurged on Lunch from Humble Pie!  Yum!  What a Treat - the visit, and the meal!  Wednesday evening we made a spur of the moment decision to head up to a Springfield Cardinals game.  We wore the girls out, but they had FuN!  Kyria was a little apprehensive about Louie & Fetch, but it didn't take her long to warm up to them!  Here's another picture of Kyria I captured with my iPhone.

The rest of the week was much of the same.  Our friend Kenda dropped by to visit the girls and I on Thursday, and we chatted the afternoon away!  That was a HUGE blessing.  Friday night was our usual pizza night, and I laid the girls down early for bedtime since Skyler had to catch up on some stuff outside. It was a very FuN-filled week!

So . . . I have GOT to do a better job of 1) Getting pictures of both of my girls throughout the week, and 2) using my "nice" camera and actually challenging my self to get shots even when the conditions aren't perfect.   I always get caught up in the moment and forget to even try!  . . . next week . . .

Until then . . .Have a weekend FULL of blessings!